All Worked Up And No Beneficiary

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The problem with writing erotica, romance, or even a plain old love scene is that it gets you all worked up. Why is this a problem? It’s not, really, unless you have no one to gain the benefits of your creativity. You think the stereotyped gamer geek is frustrated? That’s nothing on the lonely romance writer. I’ve been both places. Trust me.

What’s the solution? Stop writing? Not really an option. Here’s what happens to writers who stop writing: they have to stomp so hard on all those ideas flying through their brain that the ideas end up in a box labeled “REPRESSED”. Those ideas then come back up in therapy as actual memories. (It could happen.)

Could another solution be to put those scenes behind doors? That might work for mainstream or even SFF. Certainly some genres are amenable to this kind of treatment. Doesn’t work so well with romance or erotica. The other problem with relying on this method, even in mainstream, is that sometimes those scenes provide a crucial piece of information about the characters or, heaven forbid, something that pushes the plot forward.

Other than the couple of obvious solutions, I don’t see what can be done about it. On the whole, though, it’s a dilemma I can work with. Psychotherapists have a wonderful word that applies: sublimation. In essence, it’s channeling the pressures of various emotions in a positive manner. What does this mean for the writer? Turn that frustration into better sex scenes, better fight scenes, better resolution scenes.

Writing: A Matter of Place

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Common images of writers include someone hunched over a piece of parchment with a quill pen and scribbling madly in the light of a candle, a person typing feverishly at an old fashioned typewriter, a man scratching out verse in a notebook, a woman sitting at a computer filling the screen with words. Yes, some of the images are true. But more often than not, a writer’s most often observable action is sitting and staring into space. A writer staring into space is usually in the throes of feverishly trying to tie two plot points together, or coming up with two plot points to tie together.

Leaving aside the issues of outlining versus not outlining, quite often the easiest part is the actual putting down of words onto paper, real or virtual. Sure there may be a brief struggle to find the exact word you want to convey an idea, but on the whole, by the time words start appearing in a concrete fashion, the hardest part is done: formulating a coherent message or story or idea that will (hopefully) interest other people enough to purchase said message, story, or idea.

One of the greatest challenges in writing seems to be finding a time and place where people do not assume you are doing nothing when you are gazing into the middle distance. I know many writers with families have to remind those in the house that they are working and not necessarily available. Personally I find it easiest to write when not in the house…unless there’s something very distracting going on at the location I’m writing. (Lesson learned from last night: do not try to write while supporting friends in a volleyball tournament.) Libraries are good, as are bookstores. Amusingly enough, I find fast food restaurants fairly easy to write in.

My advice for those who say they want to do some writing, whether journaling for personal enjoyment or writing something for publication: don’t write at home. You’ll get more done if you write away from people who will not only distract you, but actively disturb you.